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anger management, stress management, executive coaching
amidst economic chaos and what is right with you rather than what is wrong with you. Below is a list of articles,
exercises, radio scripts, book chapters and helpful tips to
maximize to your psychological, emotional and spiritual health and well-being.
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Take This Job
and Shove It! Anger Management at Work
‘Excuse me’, I said kindly,
‘there is a mistake in this report.’ My coworker roared,
‘And I assume you’re perfect?! My reports don’t have
mistakes in them. Why don’t you take that report and shove
it up your a..!’ She continued with her tirade while I did a
quick scan for any sharp objects nearby that she might use
on me. After 3 long minutes, she snatched the pages from my
hand and stormed off.
While this took place nearly
20 years ago, I remember it vividly as it was an early
lesson that the anger of coworkers is not always directed at
the right person. More often, the anger of coworkers is
misdirected at people who had no involvement in causing the
anger in the first place.
So how do you handle it
when someone else’s anger begins to escalate in the
workplace? The ability to de-escalate the anger of others is
a critical ability for long-term success. As a shrink,
father of 4 and award-winning author, I have seen anger take
on a life of its own, destroying relationships and derailing
careers. While we do our best to act the part of rational,
reasonable business people, the truth is that we are also
How To Get
The Most Out Of Your Workforce: Employee Productivity Begins (And Ends) With
learning to manage the negative emotions is necessary but not sufficient to
increase employee productivity, teamwork and innovation. Positive emotions serve
to broaden and build. Positive emotions enable us to think outside the box, to
act in new ways, to create and innovate. To get the most from your workforce,
you must understand the emotional mind inside and out - the negative and the
Positive Psychology of Music -
Over 600 Positive Songs - Music Compilation
Music has a powerful and profound impact on how we feel and think. If we are to
approach Dacher Keltner & Barbara Fredrickson's 3:1 Positivity ratio (3 times as much positive
emotions as negative), we must surround ourselves with positive messages,
planting tiny seeds throughout each day. This is a list of over 600 positive and
elevating songs (in terms of tempo, lyrics, and/or timbre) compiled by Dr. John
Schinnerer. June 2009.
The Best 35 Values
A one page worksheet listing the top values that exist throughout the world as
researched by Dr. John Schinnerer, positive psychologist and executive coach.
The Power of Positive Motivation
An excellent article on the
power of positive, internal motivation to get you moving to achieve your goals
and pursue your passions. Two kinds of motivation exist - intrinsic motivation
(internal) and extrinsic motivation (external). Both of these may be either
positive or negative in nature. Find out about each type and how to cultivate
the best type of motivation here! Article by Dr. John Schinnerer. July 2007.
The Battle Between Your Emotional And Rational Mind: The Metaphor of the
Alligator and the Wrestler
best metaphors to help you understand the human mind. “For
thousands of years, philosophers, authors and scientists have searched for an
adequate metaphor to describe the human mind. In fact, your entire way of
thinking is founded on language and metaphor. You are bound by the language you
use to describe the world around you. For instance, it’s difficult to think
about life in the abstract, or even long-term. However, once the metaphor of
life as a journey is applied, the metaphor provides a framework in which you can
think about life. The metaphor of life as journey implies that it’s a good idea
to discover which direction you’re headed, who you’re going with, and to expect
some ups and downs. It is far easier to make sense of complex ideas with the
right metaphor – the right language.... Along these lines, humankind has likened
the mind to many different wild animals. For instance, Buddha compared the human
mind to a wild elephant. The philosopher, Plato, used an allegory of the mind as
a charioteer holding the reins of two horses. When I talk of the human mind, my
audiences find it easiest to think of the mind as one of two metaphors:
rider atop a wild stallion OR a person wrestling an alligator.”
Three Most Destructive Core Beliefs |
The three most damaging core beliefs you can hold and what to do about them.
“Your core beliefs, those stealthy, silent thoughts that race through the movie
screen of your mind, matter tremendously if you want a thriving life.
Take a close look at your core beliefs because they fuel your thinking. If your
core beliefs are negative (e.g., “I always get the short end of the stick.”),
then your thinking will be negative. Negative thoughts lead to negative
emotions. So take a close look at your core beliefs, those things that you
believe deep down in the core of your being. While not scientifically
proven, there seems to be a triad of negative beliefs which are at the root of
all other destructive beliefs. These three beliefs stem from a confusion that
arises when you mistake who you are with what you do. You are not
what you do. You are not merely what you believe. You are not only what you
feel. Those are aspects, facets, of you, but they are not the essence of you.
You are far more than mere actions, beliefs, or feelings. Here are the
three most damaging core beliefs that you can hold…” Click
here for the full article.
Forgiveness - What is it? Why should you learn it? How do you learn it?|
Forgiveness is the key to releasing all the pain of past mistakes, tragedy and
betrayals. Each one of us has an emotional gas tank inside us. Inside most of
us, our emotional gas tanks are filled with anger, sadness and fear, or negative
emotions. Negative emotions build up over time. They accumulate. These negative
emotions are unhealthy. The question is, "How do I get rid of them?" Answers lie
in this article by Dr. John Schinnerer, President and Lead Coach of Guide To
Strengths Forward Exercise|
Here is an simple yet
powerful exercise from Guide to Self Radio and Dr. John Schinnerer designed to increase the fondness, admiration,
self-confidence, and happiness of yourself and those around you. From the
attached list, note the three greatest strengths of three of your significant
other, best friend, and favorite family member. Scientifically proven to
increase your happiness and life satisfaction!
Walking the Path to Personal Peace|
All change begins with awareness and intention. These ten steps will show you
how you may achieve a peaceful and meaningful life. The idea is to focus on one
area at a time. Decide which area you would like to improve and pay attention to
it every day for one month. Change is inevitable. By following these ten steps,
you too can find a personal peace and remain calm in any situation.
The Face of
Emotions: A Guide To Emotional Cues|
What is emotion? How do you recognize an emotion?
How do you get in touch with your emotions? Emotions seem so simple. Yet, they are so
This article provides a
guide to the major emotional families and the bodily cues for which to keep an
eye out. Extremely helpful in increasing emotional self-awareness.
Optimism Linked To A Longer Life|
Important study linking positive thinking to a longer and more
fulfilling life. A review of a study published in
Archives of General
Ten Tips to Keep a Lid on Anger|
Constantly losing your cool stresses your personal and professional
relationships and demonstrates low emotional intelligence. Here are 10 tips to
help you keep your cool when the pressure is on.
Anxiety Comes Out|
Article by Dr. John Schinnerer on social anxiety, the fear of being judged or
criticized, is the third most prevalent disorder, affecting over 15 million
Article by Dr. John Schinnerer, author, emotion expert, blogger & speaker.
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